THE VOID OF A PARENT’S ABSENCE
When it comes to the upbringing of a child, it is ideal that the child be brought up by both parents and others that are around them. Having just one parent providing all the support and need of a child or children can prove to be very effective in some ways but overall, it most times leads to negligence in some aspects of proper upbringing. As someone who has the experience of growing up with a single parent, I know that a lot of things would have been different and probably better for me if I had both my parents by my side while growing up.
In as much as it can also be a case of upbringing regardless of how many parents are involved, when both parents are doing the job of bringing up of their children, it makes the work way easier and pleasurable. I have two siblings, a girl and a boy. That makes us two girls and a boy and my dad was the only one that was readily available to provide for all our needs. He didn’t have to tell us that he struggled really hard at almost every point but my dad never gave up on giving us the best he could provide. I remember some nights when I wake up and find him just sitting there probably thinking of how he is going to pay off a debt or do one or two things for us.
Seeing him that way alone, it was obvious that he would have done better if he had someone to help him. He tried to meet up in different areas of our upbringing but for the fact that we were girls, I’m very sure my dad had some things that took him a while to understand about his girls. In this aspect, my sister and I were lucky to have good people around if not, we would have made so many wrong decisions which would have barely even come up if my mum was there to help out. Back then, I remembered always feeling bad that my dad always got my brother things than he did for my sister and I.
Not until I grew to a point to understand that my dad only did that because it was way easier for him to get things for my brother because he was a boy, not because he doesn’t want to get things for us. This is just a little part of negligence, there are so many areas too that a child might suffer neglect if he or she is brought up by just one parent. Although, it is still very possible for a child to be neglected even when both parents are available but then, it is not something that is so evident unlike a single parent bringing up his or her child/children.
Some effects of having a parent absent in the upbringing of a child can be; a child having the wrong perspective towards some areas of life. Finding it hard to trust people to stay. Scared to be committed in a relationship. Finding it hard to socialize very well. Low self esteem is also possible and many more. There will definitely be some negative effects of growing up with just only one parent readily available to support and help out. Life will be a lot easier and beautiful if we have both of our parents playing their parts.
This is my response to the Hivelearners topic on ”A PARENT ABSENT”.
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Hey there, Hopey. I agree with you that it is “ideal” to have both hands on deck. When it comes to parenting, the importance of teamwork cannot be overemphasized. However, this doesn't mean a single parent cannot make things work.
Your dad is a very good example. Kudos to him for raising wonderful kids. Even though he struggled, he managed to raise responsible kids. Some kids who grew up with both parents are not even as responsible as you guys are.
So, as long as the present parent play their roles well, things will go well.
Thanks for sharing, love.
Aww, you’re so sweet. I will read this to my dad. 🤭
I’m glad we both agree on this, Friendy. Thanks for sharing your beautiful comment. ❤️
There's always going to be a void when one parent is absent, parenting is not easy for two, imagine how harder it can get for just one.
Those effects you shared that comes with kids who have only parent caring for them, are true especially having wrong perspective about life.
Thankfully, it can be corrected.
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Yeah, it can be corrected but it will take a long time. Indeed, two heads are better than one. 🥰
Dad and mum have different roles and when combined together in nurturing children, it brings about a better outcome
Having said that... there are many children raised by one parent, yet they are still very responsible with a good future but personally, I feel that two is better than one
If no factor is hindering it.. teamwork makes more sense in parenting
I totally agree with you, momma. 🥰
Thanks for stopping by and leaving your input. ❤️
Both parents raising a child is supposed to be better than one but I can't really say that confidently these days. I think we should just thank God for how far He has brought us because the things out there these days is crazy. In most of the cases I've seen recently, it takes the grace of God.
Of course, it’s God all the way. We just hope that since two people made it possible for the child to exist, it would be fair if they both bring them up together.
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You're welcome 🤗
I completely agree with your opinion about parenting, the presence or involvement of two parents is very necessary in parenting, cooperation is a good thing in a family, you are very lucky to have both parents who love their children very much, thank you very much for sharing with us about your story and story, It's a lot of fun💗😍
Thank you so much for agreeing with me. The parents taking care of the kids together will also indirectly teach them to want to do the same when they become parents tomorrow.
Awwww i also know some people who bring things for son but not for daughters but it'll have other kind of effect on girls life. I wish you have had both parents on your side 🥺
Thank you, Les. I believe everything happened for the best so right now, I’m just grateful for how far I have come. 🤗
Yes everything happens for a reason and I'm sure all these makes you so strong 💞
You’re right. ❤️
Your dad is indeed an hero, and I'm sure if he's not only him. He would have done way better than you could ever imagine. God bless him.
I believe so too, Moremoney. 🥰
Thanks for your comment and beautiful compliment to my dad. 🫂
No child should have to grow up without a present father or mother, it actually affects them so much both mentally and emotionally. It would affect the way they see relationships and even their confidence in general. I also grew with just my mum but then as the last born with four older siblings I enjoyed a lot 🤣🤣
Aww, good for you, lol.
Only one parent taking care of the child will definitely affect the child at some point no matter how well the parent is doing in bringing them up.
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