To pick up my son's glasses / 息子の眼鏡を受け取りに - My Actifit Report Card: November 17 2024

（日本語は後半にあります）

【English】

My second son was diagnosed as possibly not having very good eyesight at his 3-year-old checkup, and since then we had been going to the ophthalmologist on a regular basis.

After several visits, we found out that he was nearsighted, and the ophthalmologist and I discussed the possibility of having him wear glasses shortly before he started elementary school.

He is mildly nearsighted and there is no particular obstacle to his daily life while he is in daycare. However, when he enters elementary school, he may not be able to see the blackboard during class with his current eyesight, so we were told that it would be better for him to wear glasses. But the doctor said that it would be better for him to start wearing glasses before he enters school, because if he wears glasses in the middle of school after entering school, he may be teased by others or he himself may be too concerned about it. Following this advice, we decided to start wearing glasses at this time.

Today was the day to receive the glasses I ordered about two weeks ago. I walked with my second son to the optician in front of the station. We picked up the finished glasses, had them adjusted a little, and walked home with them on to get used to them. My son looked great in his glasses, so I took some pictures and sent them to my husband and my family ( my father and mother). He was also happy that he could see letters in the distance clearly.

But then...there were a series of things that made me angry. First, when I came home, my elder son made the following comment about my second son's glasses.

"When you wear glasses, you look like the guy I don't like at the juku. That's why I don't really like you in glasses."

My elder son may have just said what he thought, but that was too much like not thinking about my second son's feelings, wasn't it? I was so angry that I immediately yelled at him😅

"Your brother wears glasses for the first time today, and although he doesn't say it out loud, he is concerned inwardly whether they look good on him or not. That's not the kind of thing to say to him, is it?".

I don't know if my elder son understood or not, but he kept quiet.

Some time later, I received a message from my father who saw the photo.
He said, "The glasses look good on him, but it's too bad he has bad eyesight. Can't they cure it?"
Why would my father say such a thing when he himself has been suffering from bad eyesight all his life and wears glasses!

Furthermore, I received the following message from my mother.
"Oh... No choice but to wear glasses..."
What...? Haven't you always worn glasses too?
All these words of disappointment about my second son's debut in glasses made me somewhat angry as well. Come to think of it, I myself remember being scolded quite a bit by my parents when my eyes started to deteriorate around the age of 10. Since they are from the Showa era, they may be prejudiced about “children's glasses”. However, myopia is partly a genetic factor.

Fortunately, my second son has not seen those messages. I am going to ask my parents to be careful what they say the next time I go back home🤨 I know they don't mean to offend me though.

It was a delicate day in terms of mood, but I am happy that my step count exceeded 7,000 steps. I forgot to take a pictures of the walk, so I'll upload pictures of the Hoshino Coffee Shop where I had lunch with my second son.

【Japanese】

次男は3歳児健診であまり視力が良くないかもしれないと言われ、以来定期的に眼科に通っていました。

何度か通ううちに近視であることが分かり、眼科医とは「小学校に上がる少し前に眼鏡をかけてみようか」という話をしていました。

軽度の近視であり、保育園のうちは生活に特に支障はありません。が、小学校に上がると今の視力では授業中黒板が見えなかったりする可能性があるため、眼鏡をかけたほうが良いだろうとのことでした。ただ入学後に途中から眼鏡にすると（特に子どもの世界では）からかわれたり、本人が気にしすぎたりすることがあるため、入学前にかけ始めるのが良いですよーとアドバイスをもらい、それに従いこのタイミングとなりました。

今日は2週間ほど前に注文した眼鏡を受け取る日で、次男を連れて歩いて駅前の眼鏡屋さんまで行きました。出来上がった眼鏡を受け取り、少し調整をしてもらい、慣れるためにかけたまま歩いて帰りました。次男は眼鏡姿が良く似合っていたので、何枚か写真を撮って夫や私の家族（父・母）に送りました。本人も遠くの文字がよく見えると喜んでいました。

ですが・・・その後、立て続けに腹の立つことがありました。まず、帰宅すると長男が次男の眼鏡姿についてこう言ったのです。「眼鏡かけると、塾の俺が嫌いな奴に似てるんだよなー。だから、俺はあんまり（好きじゃない）」

長男はただ思ったことを言っただけなのでしょうが、それはあまりにも、次男の気持ちを考えてないんじゃないの？と腹が立ち、即座に𠮟り飛ばしました😅次男だって、今日初めて眼鏡をかけて、口には出さないけれど似合うかどうか内心気にしているはず・・・そんなところへかける言葉じゃないよね？と。長男は分かったのかどうなのか不明ですが、黙っていました。

その後しばらくして、写真を見た父からLINEが届きました。
「眼鏡は似合うけど、目が悪いのは残念だなー。治らんのか？」
いや・・・自分だってずっと眼鏡じゃん！？

その後追い打ちをかけるように、母からLINEが届きました。
「近視か～　眼鏡しかないのか…」
え・・・？あなたもずっと眼鏡では？

次男の眼鏡デビューを残念がるような言葉ばかりで、なんだか腹が立ってしまいました。そういえば私自身も10歳前後で目が悪くなり始めたとき、親からかなり怒られたんですよね。昭和の人たちなので、「子どもの眼鏡」については偏見があるのかもしれません。ただ近視は遺伝的要因もあるので、目が悪い両親に私や私の子どもの目が悪いことを責められるのは、ちょっと納得がいかないですね・・・

幸い、次男はLINEのメッセージは見ていません。次に実家に帰省する時は、両親には発言に気をつけてもらうようお願いしようと思っています🤨悪気がないことは分かっているのですが。

とまぁ気分的には微妙な一日でしたが、歩数が7,000歩を超えたのは良かったです。ウォーキングの写真を撮り忘れてしまったので、次男とお昼を食べた星野珈琲店の写真をアップしておきます。

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