My Actifit Report Card: March 8 2024 solo parenting / ワンオペ育児

（日本語は下にあります）

【English】

Last week, my wife was away for refreshments from Friday night to Sunday morning, making this my one-parenting experience. This is the first time for my son to be without his mom for two nights. This is the only two times, including this one, that Mom has been gone for the entire night. The last time was in June 2023 for one night! I went outside to look for mommy, who was not supposed to be there, many times while crying. I still remember the fixed look in her eyes after she cried a lot.

Well, how about this time? I pick up my son from daycare with a sense of excitement. I had told him several times that morning that Mommy would not be home today, and on the bike ride home, I told him that Mommy would not be home, but that we would do our best, and I think he understood. However, when we arrived home, he was still faced with the reality that Mommy was gone, and he refused to wash his hands, which he could normally do. I'm going to do it with Mommy," he cried, "I'm going to do it with Mommy! My son would cry and wouldn't wash his hands and wouldn't let me do it. When I managed to get him to wash his hands, he cries and gets angry, saying, "I want to go look for him! she cries and gets angry. I knew what to expect, but I was getting a little worried because of the same development as last time. The sun was setting and it was getting dark when I put him in the stroller and went outside. My son was half crying as we walked along the road, but after watching the buses and trucks for a while, he gradually calmed down and his mood improved. It was getting dark, and I told my son, "It's going to be haunted, we have to go home! I said, "It's going to be haunted! I have to go home! We succeeded in returning home safely. This was the only time he went outside, and it was much easier than before when he had to go outside many times. I am very happy to feel his growth. And for dinner, we were able to eat fish rice smoothly. My son loves salmon and horse mackerel and eats fish almost every day. I have a beer to relieve the fatigue of the week. Lately, my son seems to want to do everything himself, even pouring his own beer. I never thought I would be able to drink beer poured by my son so soon. This is Hugarden Rosé, a beer I've never had before, and I recommend it even to people who don't like beer. It is a fruity, non-bitter, easy-drinking beer made from Hugarden white with raspberries added. The color is ruby and very beautiful.

After that, the bath was a challenge, but I managed to finish brushing my teeth, and then all I had to do was go to bed. Last time, I had a hard time because he was so whimpering when he went to bed, but this time he didn't cry any more. However, just because they don't cry doesn't mean they don't go to sleep easily! There were picture books all around the futon. In the end, I was almost asleep before my son for an hour and a half, and it was past 10:00 when my son fell asleep. Finally, I was able to take some time for myself, but I couldn't resist sleepiness and decided to go to sleep as well.

Until about six months ago, my son could not sleep through the night, waking me up every few hours to cry and sometimes screaming for something to eat, but recently he has finally gained the ability to sleep. He has finally gotten the strength to sleep. Even without his mother, he is able to sleep for the second or third time and greet the morning. And another long day is about to begin. I'll spare you the details, as I've written about them in previous Actifit articles, but we ride around the nearby parks on striders and in strollers.

As a new discovery, I found beautiful cherry blossoms in a park in a nearby apartment complex. One is the Kawazu-zakura cherry tree, named Kawazu-zakura because it was discovered in Kawazu-cho, Shizuoka Prefecture. It is an early blooming cherry tree that blooms from the beginning of February to the beginning of March. It is an early-blooming cherry that blooms from the beginning of February to the beginning of March, and has a darker pink color than Someiyoshino. It can be enjoyed for a long time.

The other is called Kanhizakura. This one has a darker pink color than Kawazu-zakura. This is the most common type of cherry blossom that can be seen in Okinawa. The flowers face down, but they are not at the end of blooming, which is one of the characteristics of this cherry tree. It would be nice to enjoy cherry blossoms for a long time at different blooming times. We can now feel the coming of spring.

I walked over 19,000 steps that day, but I couldn't do an Actifit post with my son, so this is why I'm posting at this time. The only hard part was the bath, which he hates when mommy is not there. Still, the long day was over, and just like last night, we went to sleep while reading a large number of picture books.

The next day, we went out for a walk in the morning again and took a nap in the stroller as usual. Then, in the meantime, my wife finally came back. I am relieved because it was hard to turn the housework and the company of my son by myself, even if it was only for two days. When my son woke up, he came to the living room with a grin on his face, as if something had caught his attention and he came to meet his mom. He gave me a big smile. My son, who loves his mommy, seemed relieved.

My wife and I have a slightly different attitude and behavior toward our son, and he seems to be a little too close to his mom. Often he is attached to me and my wife can't do anything. On the other hand, when my wife and I are alone, we have a good distance, and my son can spend some time alone, so I can do my chores and eat my meals with relative ease. When both my wife and I are there, I do everything with my mom! This is a source of concern for me because my wife has to bear a heavy burden. Well, I guess it can't be helped that she is a boy. I will try my best to do what I can, thinking that this kind of trouble is only for now.

【日本語】

先週、金曜日の夜から日曜日の午前中まで、妻がリフレッシュのため不在にしていたので、私のワンオペ育児となりました。2晩ママがいないのは息子にとって初めての経験です。これまでママがいなかったのは今回も含めてたった2回だけ。前回は2023年6月、1晩だけでしたが、その時はママ探しにいくのー！と泣きながら何度もいるはずのないママを外に探しにいきました。散々泣いた後に見せた目の据わった表情が今でも忘れられません。

さて、今回はどうか。ドキドキしながら保育園に息子を迎えにいきます。その日の朝から今日はママはいないからね、と何度か話をしていたのと、帰りの自転車でもママはいないけど頑張ろうねと話をして、理解はしていたと思います。ただ家に着くとやはりママがいない現実を目の当たりにし、いつもならなんてことはない手洗いを拒みます。ママとするのー！といった具合に泣き散らかして手を洗わないし、洗わせてくれません。なんとか手洗いをさせると今度は探しにいきたいのー！と泣きながら怒ります。予想はしていましたが、前回と同じ展開にちょっと不安になってきました。ベビーカーに乗せて外に出ると日が落ちて薄暗くなってきているところです。ベソをかきながら道路沿いまでいきましたが、しばらくバスやトラックなどを見ていると次第に落ち着いてきて機嫌も良くなってきます。あたりがかなり暗くなってきたので、お化けが出ちゃう、帰らなきゃ！と言うと、息子も怖ーい！お家帰らなきゃ！と無事に家に帰ることに成功しました。外に出たのはこの1回きり、何度も外に出た以前と比べるとだいぶ楽になりました。成長を感じるのがとても嬉しいです。そして夕飯はお魚ご飯をスムーズに食べることが出来ました。息子は鮭や鯵が大好きでほぼ毎日魚を食べるのです。私は１週間の疲れを癒すビールを頂きます。最近息子はなんでも自分でやりたいようで、ビールも自分が注いであげると言って缶を奪われるのですが、危なっかしくてヒヤヒヤものです。こんなに早く息子に注いでもらったビールが飲めるとは思っていませんでした。こちらヒューガルデンロゼというビール、初めて飲みましたが、ビールが苦手な方にもオススメです。ヒューガルデンホワイトにラズベリーを加えたフルーティーで苦味のない飲みやすいビールです。色がルビー色でとても綺麗です。

その後、お風呂も一苦労ありましたがなんとか歯磨きまで終えて、あとは寝るだけ。前回は寝る時もグズグズで大変な思いをしましたが、今回はもう泣くこともありませんでした。ただし、泣かないだけで簡単には寝ません。8時半くらいから寝る体制に入りましたが、いろいろな絵本を持ってきてはこれ読んで！布団の周りは絵本だらけです。結局1時間半、息子よりも先に私が寝そうになりながら絵本を読み続け、息子が寝たのは10時過ぎでした。やっと自分の時間が取れる状況になりましたが、眠さに抗えず私も眠ることにしました。

半年くらい前までは夜も通しで寝れず、数時間おきに起こされては泣かれ、時には何か食べたいと騒いでいた息子ですが、最近やっと寝る力が付いてきたようです。ママがいなくても2度寝、3度寝しながら朝を迎えることが出来ました。そしてまた長い1日が始まります。詳細はこれまでのActifitでも書いたような内容のため割愛しますが、ストライダー、ベビーカーに乗って、付近の公園を巡ります。

新たな発見として、近くの団地内の公園で綺麗な桜を見つけました。一つはこちらの河津桜です。静岡県の川津町で発見された桜だから河津桜という名前が付いています。2月の上旬から3月の上旬にかけて咲く早咲きの桜です。ソメイヨシノより濃いピンク色をしています。長く楽しめるのがいいですね。

もう一つは寒緋桜という桜です。こちらは河津桜よりもっと濃いピンク色をしています。沖縄で桜といえばこの寒緋桜になるそうです。花が下を向いていますが、咲終わりではなく、これがこの桜の一つの特徴でもあるようです。咲く時期の違いで長く桜を楽しめると嬉しいですね。春の訪れを感じられるようになってきました。

この日は19,000歩以上歩いたのですが、息子の相手で流石にActifitの投稿をすることができず、こんなタイミングでの投稿になってしまいました。2日目はママがいないことにも少し慣れたのか、息子はそれほど泣いたり怒ったりせず楽しく過ごすことができました。唯一大変だったのはお風呂で、こればっかりはママがいないと嫌なようです。それでもなんとか長い1日が終わり、昨晩と同じように大量の絵本を読みながら眠りにつきます。

翌日も朝から散歩に出かけ、いつものようにベビーカーでお昼寝。するとその間についに妻が戻ってきました。家事と息子の相手を一人で回すのは2日間だけとはいえ大変でしたので、ホッとします。息子は目を覚ますと何かに勘付いたのか、ニヤニヤしながらリビングまできてママとの対面です。とびっきりの笑顔を見せてくれました。ママが大好きな息子も一安心したようです。

妻と私では息子の態度や行動が少し違うというか、ママとはどうも距離感が近すぎるんですよね。べったりくっ付かれて妻は何もできないということがよくあります。一方、私と二人でいるときはいい距離感というか、息子が一人で過ごす時間もあるので、私は比較的ゆとりを持って家事をしたり、食事をとることができます。妻と私が両方いるときは何をするにもママと！と言った感じでずいぶん妻の負担が大きくなってしまい、悩みの種です。まあ、この辺りは男の子なので仕方ないんですかね。こんな悩みも今だけと思いできることを頑張りたいと思います。

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Daily Activity,Walking